Deborah Graham, the host of TLC’s The Psychic Matchmaker and the popular podcast “Psychic Connection with Deborah Graham,” shares six secrets and no-nonsense practical tips she has used to match thousands of individuals.
She says that finding true love begins with a commitment—clearing away fake romantic notions that stop a person from forming real bonds with Mr./Ms. Right, because they’re focused only on one’s perfect appearance, perfect career goals, and income. What about their heart and soul?
“You have to pull the weeds away from your heart and soul and keep pulling,” she says. “If you can create positive, vibrant energy within yourself, you will emit positive vibrations. But if you believe that life sucks, it will suck, and you’ll never find what you’re looking for.”
Her six secrets:
- Trust in your inner “fabulousness” — Trust in your inner self-confidence because, ultimately, people gravitate toward you.
- Don’t let first impressions clog up the first date — Take some time to look at the person first because, like you, they may feel a bit anxious at “hello” to reveal their true self.
- Give in to the Dating Rules of Three — Always go on at least three dates with the person within three weeks. Always wait three months before you consummate the relationship. If you follow that plan, intimacy will feel more important and less disposable, like a thumbnail pic on a dating app.
- Recognize your “twin flame” soulmate — When you’re connecting with someone on a spiritual level rather than a purely physical, sexual, or materialistic one—expand your focus and shift your energies to the real heart and soul of a person to attract the ultimate soul mate: a “twin flame.”
- Recognize the glaring red flags of an “energy vampire” — These are people who only talk about themselves, what they own, and what they won’t compromise, for starters. If they’re not interested in you now, they won’t give a hoot what you’re about tomorrow.
- Know when to say goodbye — Even if you’ve invested much time and energy in the relationship, trust your gut instinct when you know it won’t work. Why waste time on Mr./Ms. Wrong, when the “Rights” are right around the corner?